Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Divorce -christiansquoting.org.uk

I still miss my ex-husband, but my aim is improving.

Most recent numbers indicate that 52 percent of all marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for FIRST marriages is about 37 percent. The divorce rate for SECOND marriages is about 63 percent. The divorce rate for THIRD marriages is about 78 percent. - Your odds of succeeding are far greater if you stick it out with the one you got. - The divorce rate for couples who "pray together regularly" is ONE out of 152.

According to the European Union's statistical office (Eurostat, ugh!) the UK and Finland "Top" the European divorce rate with 2.8 divorces per 1000 people per annum, notwithstanding the rate of marriage is falling. Between 1993 and 1999 the number of divorces in the UK fell for that reason, but 39% of children were born outside wedlock compared with an E U average of 29%

Divorce is defeat. --Lucille Ball

The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce.-- Cervantes

Any man with eyes in his head, whatever the ideas in his head, who looks at the world as it is today, must know that the whole social substance of marriage has changed . . . Numbers of normal people are getting married, thinking already that they may be divorced . . The Church was right to refuse even the exception. The world has admitted the exception; and the exception has become the rule . . The Catholic Church, standing almost alone, declared that it would in fact lead to an anarchical position; and the Catholic Church was right. --G K Chesterton {The Well and the Shallows, NY: Sheed & Ward, 1935, pp. 42-43}

If Americans can be divorced for "incompatibility of temper" I cannot conceive why they are not all divorced. I have known many happy marriages, but never a compatible one.-- G K Chesterton-_What is Wrong with the World_, 1910

So many people think divorce a panacea for every ill, who find out, when they try it, the remedy is worse than the disease.
Dorothy Dix (1870-1951)"Dorothy Dix, Her Book," 1926.

Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do.~Zsa Zsa Gabor

All [Christian churches] regard divorce as something like cutting up a living body, as a kind of surgical operation. Some of them think the operation so violent that it cannot be done at all; others admit it as a desperate remedy in extreme cases. They are all agreed that it is more like having both your legs cut off than it is like dissolving a business partnership or even deserting a regiment. What they all disagree with is the modern view that it is a simple readjustment of partners, to be made whenever people feel they are no longer in love with one another, or when either of them falls in love with someone else.
C S Lewis-- _Mere Christianity_

This story has irritated me from the start, and it has nothing to do with Rev. Robinson's sexual orientation. The guy left his wife and kids to go do the hokey-pokey with someone else: that's what it's all about, at least for me. Marriages founder for a variety of reasons, and ofttimes they're valid reasons, sad and inescapable. But "I want to have sex with other people" is not a valid reason for depriving two little girls of a daddy who lives with them, gets up at night when they're sick, kisses them in the morning when they wake. There's a word for people who leave their children because they don't want to have sex with Mommy anymore: selfish. I'm not a praying man, but I cannot possibly imagine asking God if that would be okay. -- James Lileks, http://www.lileks.com/bleats/archive/03/0803/080703.html

She cried, and the judge wiped her tears with my checkbook. --Tommy Manville (1894-1967)

To propose that marriage be abandoned and half-marriage substituted is like advising a man with a sty to get a glass eye. He doesn't want a glass eye; he wants his own natural and perfect eye, with the sty plucked out. All such reformers forget that the reall essence of marriage is not the nature of the relation but the performance of that relation. It is a device for time-binding, like every other basic human institution. Its one indomitable purpose is to endure. Plainly enough, divorce ought to be easy when the destruction of a marriage is an accomplished fact, but it would be folly to set up conditions tending to make that destruction more likely. Too much, indeed, has been done in that direction already. The way out for people who are incapable of the concessions and compromises that go with every contract is not to fill the contract with snakes but to avoid it altogether. There are, indeed, many men and women to whom marriage is a sheer psychic impossibility. But to the majority it is surely not. They find it quite bearable; they like it; they want it to endure. What they need is help in making it endurable.-- H. L. Mencken, "Divorce" The New York _World_, Jan 26, 1930

1 comment:

Ann Marie said...

This is very interesting. It is true though, in American there are some 40 million women whom are divorced. I work for www.firstwivesworld.com, it is an online community for women navigating through the various stages of divorce and life thereafter. It is very interesting to hear these diffrent points of view. Check it out
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Just my two cents
Ann Marie